The woman also accused her sister-in-law of stealing the date of her bridal shower.
There are very few days in a persons life that are meant to be solely dedicated to them, but that is exactly what a wedding day is meant to be.
However one devastated bride from the US feels that she had her big day stolen from her by her sister-in-law, after her C-section was scheduled to take place on the same day as her wedding.
Reddit user Ginnywhatchoowannado took to the site’s chat forum looking for some advice as to whether she was in the right or wrong, after the drama surrounding the wedding and the baby caused a serious rift in the family.
The woman, who got in engaged last November explained how soon after her wedding announcement her sister-in-law announced she was pregnant.
“A few weeks (after announcing the date) my brother-in-law and sister-in-law announced the pregnancy of their first child,” her story began.
“My sister-in-law is still very young and she grew up very spoiled. She's still very self-centered but since her pregnancy, she has started maturing. Despite our personality differences she and I have grown sort of close. I was genuinely excited about the baby.”
The problems apparently began with the wedding shower.
Tensions began to build between the bride-to-be and the sister-in-law after the woman scheduled her bridal shower for a May 19th this year.
But two weeks before the shower, the sister-in-law apparently sent out invites for her baby shower - on the same date.
“About two weeks before my shower my sister-in-law sent out invites for her baby shower-for May 19th,” the post explained.
“My husband's relatives who I had invited and who had RSVPed my shower skipped my shower for hers.”
“To makes matters worse My sister-in-law showed up at my shower in the last hour wearing a white dress, a tiara, and a pink satin sash over her chest.”
Backing out of the wedding.
Then about a week before the wedding, the bride explained how she was shocked to find out that the sister-in-law had scheduled her C-section for the exact same day as the nuptials.
She explained: “About a week before my wedding, (my sister-in-law) announces that she scheduled her c-section for (the same day as the wedding)”.
“My mother-in-law and father-in-law told us that if they had to choose between the first grandchild and our wedding they'd choose the baby.
“Then his grandparents, his three aunts and two uncles and several cousins all said they wanted to be at the hospital for the baby.
“This family is incredibly close-knit and babies are a big deal for them. Then a bunch of their family friends got wind that these relatives weren't attending and backed out as well.”
She added that she wasn't sure the C-Section needed to be scheduled for that exact day:
“The doc wanted to do the surgery on June 12 but SIL insisted on the 8th. It wasn't an emergency c-section, she had no complications and had known it would be a c-section since month 5.”
''You've been an a**hole to me lately and I don't know why.''
The woman ended the rant by describing an argument she'd had with her sister-in-law the day before the wedding day, saying: "You've been an a**hole to me lately and I don't know why. You stole the day of my wedding and now you're stealing my wedding day. One day, one day out of the motherf***ing year I want to be the one who's in the spotlight and now I can't."
The bride goes on to confess that her husband was so disappointed that no one from his family was going to the wedding, that he no longer wanted a big affair and just wanted to go to the court house.
"You've stolen my day and my excitement," she adds.
“That was 100% intentional”.
Her sister-in-law had the baby safely but the bride is now refusing to go see the little girl.
She then asked fellow reddit users if she was in the wrong for refusing to see the baby.
Many users seemed to agree that there was something suspicious about the sister-in-law’s behavior, especially the baby shower falling on the same day as the bridal shower.
As one user put it, “that was 100% intentional. Not sure how I would feel about the c section. Would need a lot more medical information. One doesn't usually know they will need a c section in month 5.”
Another user responded, “the doctor wanted to do the C-section (a few days later) but (the sister-in-law) demanded the (wedding day) so the baby would be born on a Saturday. Bizarre.”
Of course, others were just surprised so many people chose the baby over the wedding.
As one user put it, “Wedding: lasts only one day - will be over tomorrow. Lots of people, fun and food. Oh, and booze! Birth: hanging around for ages until the baby is born. Meet baby for a couple of minutes. Maybe get to hold the baby. Maybe. No expiry date - baby will still be here tomorrow. No fun, no food. Oh, and no booze. I'd take the wedding.”
