Now this is a bit much.
One bride has come under fire after expecting a bridesmaid who has a dying relative to be at her hen party.
A woman who has a close family member dying from cancer said she wanted to cancel on her friend's hen party but the bride was having none of it.
Posting on Reddit, the bridesmaid in question said she "can’t think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of 14 guests and acting happy when I’ve spent the last week crying".
The post in full reads:
"A close relative of mine is in hospital dying of cancer right now and has been given days to live. He is my family’s only priority right now and we are all devastated, he is suffering awfully and we spend our days in the hospital almost waiting for him to be put out of his misery."
"On Saturday I am supposed to be attending my best friends hen party. I am the bridesmaid and have arranged it all with the other bridesmaid. This has been tough as bride is expecting a lot and her family attending have no money to attend (people have complained about the meals costing £30 when this is all they may have to pay for). Some have cancelled and I have lost money because of unpaid deposits."
"The hen night will be party games at my friends house (with drinks bought by bridesmaids, to keep costs down), a meal out, and then clubbing afterwards."
"I in no way want to attend, I can’t think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of 14 guests and acting happy when I’ve spent the last week crying, and spending my evening in a club full of drunk people."
"I’ve called bride tonight to try to hint I may not be able to attend and hoped she’d understand. She lost her dad a few years ago to cancer, she knows the impact it has. She was supportive in the conversation but also said as long as I’ve organised and attend the hen, then she’s happy."
"She’s not even considering the possibility of me not attending. My boyfriend and family think she is being ridiculous, and I am getting annoyed that she won’t openly give me the option to do whatever I need to do. I don’t want to let her down as she means a lot to me, but I am in no position to support her and her party right now."
The post has received a mixed reaction on Reddit. Some posters reckon she needs to be straight up with the bride and refuse to attend while others think she should just grin and bear it for the night.
The bridesmaid updated the thread to say she brought it up again with the bride. This time, she told her it'd be good for her to "get a change of scenery and get out" and that she "shouldn’t feel guilty for enjoying" herself.
